Self Protection is Self Care

Published in Recovery Today Magazine, October 2018, Issue #47   In the fall of 2013 I had one year of recovery from alcohol and drugs and I was exhausted. My life was still, as they say, unmanageable. I had stopped using mommy’s little helpers to get going in the...

The Lesson Will Be Repeated…

My wasband used to say this thing sort of tongue in cheek but sort of seriously. “The lesson will be repeated until learned”. It always bugged me but only because there’s truth in it. One of the things I had to learn to do in recovery is to identify when I’m having a...

Sometimes I Get Quiet

Yes, I’ve been quiet, too quiet. There’s this marketing philosophy that encourages the idea of positioning oneself as the expert in order to instill confidence in potential clients, it’s an unspoken “rule” that we shouldn’t be seen as a mess when we are, in fact, a...

How Mansplaining Did a Number on Me

I was going to write about something else but this stupid thing keeps doing the broken record routine in my head. (do people even know what a broken record is anymore?). I’m not clear in this moment what this has to do with recovery but I’m sure I’ll get there...

Thoughts on Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry

When I signed up for Compassionate Inquiry what I expected was to learn new skills for my practice from someone I deeply admire in a setting that was conducive to healing some of my own shit using his methods. I got what I came for. He dropped several conceptual bombs...