Thoughts on Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry

When I signed up for Compassionate Inquiry what I expected was to learn new skills for my practice from someone I deeply admire in a setting that was conducive to healing some of my own shit using his methods. I got what I came for. He dropped several conceptual bombs...

How I Blew Up My Life

Picture this. A woman in her early 40’s, good job with a pension and benefits, an active member on her union executive. She’s been married for over 15 years to a great guy who works hard. She has a nice 5 bedroom home in the suburbs, a working car, family holidays....

On Not Letting Go

Telling someone who is dealing with an emotionally charged issue to “Let it go” is not okay. I know in this day and age we’re supposed to be all enlightened and spiritual and shit but using this phrase as a response to someone else’s pain is absolute crap. When...

Deserving a Dry Home

I’ve spoken to more women than I can count on this subject, it comes up again and again. It’s not really all that surprising a situation…unless you actually think about it. For those of us pursuing recovery, the decision to quit drinking was a big deal. I had been...

Learning how to NO

One of things I used to struggle with was overcommitting myself. Saying I could make cupcakes for a bake-sale, volunteer at an event, work late, drive for a field trip…the list goes on. My philosophy was that I had to have a damn good reason for saying no to...